For hugs & conflicts :

the Four Questions method of Byron Katie (recommended by both Brooke Castillo & the Founder of Heroic.us)

Sample video :

How our mind (innocently) projects judgments onto our loved ones:

I Want Mom to Be Happy—The Work of Byron Katie‍ ‍(40 mins.)

This guy felt frustrated & sad, until Katie’s Four Questions released his automatic judgments.

The video starts serious, turns funny.