I am studying:

(1) the brilliant relationship therapist Terry Real!

(2) the Four Questions method of Byron Katie (also promoted by both Brooke Castillo & the Founder of Heroic.us)

(3) lessons from Joe Hudson

Sample videos from Terry Real:

(a) Boundaries, Self-Esteem, and Intimacy: The Missing Link (14 mins.) Vivid metaphor of an orange peel.


(b) Overcoming Codependence In Relationships (13 mins.) “It’s healthy for human beings to have bottom lines.”


(c) Breaking Free From Contempt & Emotional Abuse — Forever (8 mins.) “I invite you to live a contempt-free life” (both interacting with others & interacting inside).


From Byron Katie:

(a) How our mind (innocently) projects judgments onto our loved ones:

I Want Mom to Be Happy—The Work of Byron Katie‍ ‍(40 mins.)

This guy felt frustrated & sad, until Katie’s Four Questions released his automatic judgments — this video turns funny.


(b) Byron Katie’s wild story: 7 minute interview + cartoon.


(c) Brooke Castillo builds on Byron Katie:

’All relationships are about allowing other people to be exactly how they are, & managing our own thoughts about that.’


From Joe Hudson:

(a) His revolutionary advice: Don’t ‘manage my thoughts’ about other people; instead simply feel my body being OK with myself right now.

“Why self-possessed people get everything they want”, (9 mins.)